Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
- C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
I have found that this quote explains why I have found so many new friends of late through this blog. So many of you have said this very thing “What! You too? I thought I was the only one” about my cookie dough experience, or having to fight off breadsticks, or merely just feeling and knowing and struggling with gluttony… with an addiction to food.
And lately, I have come across a bunch of you that need to… connect… with someone about this. I have gotten several emails and phone calls from covenant friends that want to hang out with me and talk through some of their covenant thoughts. Every one has a slightly unique situation, a slightly unique need, and a slightly unique food-issue and so sometimes the blog posts just don’t cut it. And of course, after every time that I hang out with someone and talk covenant, addiction, gluttony, pain, guilt, regret, love for God, salvation, freedom, renewal, forgiveness, etc, etc, etc… I end up feeling more blessed than the person that felt that they needed the blessing!
Now, I’m going to say this, and I don’t want it to sound cocky… but I want you guys to know kind of where I’m coming from on this. When I started getting so many people that wanted to talk through this issue with me, I was kind of worried. I was talking to my husband about it wondering why so many covenanters needed someone to talk to when I had kind of just gone my own way… by myself. Through talking to him I realized that although I might not have called someone up to talk to them about my struggles, my pain, my guilt, etc. that I had been able to express all of that through my blog. Every time I went through a struggle with food and posted about it, I felt almost as if I had been cleansed… like I was free of that mistake. Even though I had never directly spoken to someone about it. Just because I knew that a few of my friends (and always my mom!!!) were reading my posts. In a way, it was like the best kind of friendship… I got to “talk” the whole time with no one to interrupt me!
But being able to chat with others about their experiences has been… well, like I said, a blessing! Their words often ring in my mind for days as I pray for God to help them and pray for God to show me the words to say to them.
All of this to say, I am truly going to be praying on and thinking about how to incorporate a system of friendship through this blog. So many are covenanting in secret and aren’t telling those close to them… but perhaps you’d like to tell someone that will understand. Or get advice. I dunno… anything that you guys could recommend to help out this aspect of the covenant would be great.
But it all boils down to this verse, which I know that I have mentioned before, but it is in a new light now:
For I long to visit you so I can bring you some spiritual gift that will help you grow strong in the Lord. When we get together, I want to encourage you in your faith, but I also want to be encouraged by yours. Romans 1:11-12
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